By Jennifer Moore

News of a Kansas man asking a judge to settle a custody suit via combat made headlines on the internet earlier this year. Specifically, the man asked a judge to grant permission to meet his ex-wife and her attorney, or another fighter of their choice, “on a field of battle where he will rend their souls from their corporal bodies,” according to an article in the Des Moines Register.

It should be noted that this request, while inappropriate, was not intended to be taken seriously and was an attempt to frustrate his ex-wife’s attorney. It does, however, raise a few issues that we at Marcellino & Tyson see arise in many child custody cases: how exactly should one prepare for a child custody hearing? How should I meet the typical objections and arguments of the opposing party?

We thought this would be an excellent time to go over the top five ways to prepare for your upcoming child custody case, according to Attorney Jennifer Moore.

  1. Have all your documents together and ready to go. This includes school records, medical records, and any written communications with the other parent/opposing party. It’s also essential to keep up with correspondence from third parties such as teachers, coaches, tutors, etc. Basically – keep track of everything as it could relate to your child’s well-being.
  2. Keep yourself in check – this is a big one we should emphasize. When you are in a custody case, you must understand that you are always under a microscope. Everything and anything you do could come out should your case go to trial. To also be mindful of this, you should also talk to the other parent in a cooperative, amicable matter.
  3. No matter how hard it may seem at the time, always do your best to co-parent to the utmost of your abilities. The better you are at co-parenting, the better you will look in a judge’s eyes.
  4. Do not, under any circumstances, involve the children. They should be left out of any details of the case and any disagreements you may have with the other parent. This can also be a confusing and challenging time for them, and they need to know that both their parents love them and have their best interests at hearts. Trying to play sides or favorites will only hurt them.
  5. Always communicate with your lawyer. Ask before you act, and take their advice. You hired us for a reason – so take advantage of us!

For more information on child custody or preparing for a case, please feel free to reach out to Marcellino & Tyson PLLC at or by calling (704) 919-1519.